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Study Finds People Enjoy So-Called Boring Small Talk More Than They Expect

Engagement during a live exchange, not the topic, explains why these chats feel better than predicted.

Overview

  • Researchers published the peer-reviewed paper Monday in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, reporting nine experiments with about 1,800 participants.
  • Across strangers and friends, in person and on Zoom, people predicted dull conversations yet rated the live chats as far more interesting once they took part.
  • The benefit came from the dynamic back-and-forth of talking—listening, responding, and feeling heard—rather than from the subject itself.
  • The effect vanished when people only read transcripts or watched recordings of the same conversations, showing that active participation is required.
  • The team led by Elizabeth Trinh at the University of Michigan, with co-authors at Cornell ILR and INSEAD, says misjudging small talk may cause people to skip easy moments of connection, and they advise starting more chats, asking open-ended questions, and paying close attention.